What are you after?
Is there a big goal that you are chasing?
Maybe there is an achievement you are looking for as it relates to a certain number of sales, wins, revenue targets?
Or, perhaps it is something like you want to lose 10lbs. or increase the compliance and consistency of your daily exercise plan and amount of whole foods you eat each day...
Either way, we are all after something..
But what if we do not achieve it under our self-imposed timelines?
Or, what if we do?
How do we treat ourselves as a result?
I want to introduce you to a term that you may not have given much thought to:
Now, I am writing this, yet, 100% guilty of not having this gift come naturally to me...
Which means, I have to work for it... and remind myself of it's importance each day.
Which is classic for most hard-charging, goal, objective oriented people....
There is little to no self-compassion... and just a focus on moving to the next thing.
And that is the problem because over time we can trick our minds into thinking we have not actually had success...
The wins feel like a position of neutrality...
The losses spark anger and an "I'll show you" reflex that often throws the self-compassionless person into overdrive to get back on track...
Over time though, this process will leave you feeling spiritually bankrupt, or, dealing with chronic anxiousness and a feeling of never being settled.
Self-Compassion is hard.
Especially when we don't meet our own expectations..
Yet, without it, you are doomed.
When was the last time your gave yourself a high-five?
Or, tipped your cap to yourself for a job well done?
The last time I can remember doing this is when I first landed my gig with the Yankees.... and again when I launched my book, Habits of a Champion..
So for me personally, it has been inconsistent and with about ten years plus between events.
How about for you?
When was the last time you gave yourself an applause?
1. As a reminder to myself....
2.As a reminder and warning to you....
If you do not do this, you will be left working from a position of FORCE rather than driven by the magic of that free-flowing energy that passion provides us.....
Recently, I have worked hard to go "easier" on myself and actually celebrate the little things....
It is healthy.
It does not make you an ego maniac...
It makes you a winner.
As you go through your day to day, find some areas you where you are winning and give yourself that high five.
Do that enough days in a row and the pressure to succeed will be replaced with a joy for the process as you execute each day towards your mission, vision, and goals!
Not to mention, you will be happier!
COACH DANA CAVALEA
Speaking of self-compassion, my friend Anthony Crudele (host of Futures Radio & Futures Trader), almost lost his life chasing success.
He had a heart attack in his mid 30s and it forced his hand to make a major lifestyle change. Click here to view the interview.