A few years ago I was working with a long-term client who made billions of dollars in the healthcare business....
He said, "Coach, whenever you go into a meeting- you must know exactly what you want out of that meeting and it is your job to leave with that which you desire."
He went on to say, "You should never have a meeting for the sake of having a meeting. Always have a clear purpose to the meeting."
This always stuck with me.
And, as a Coach, I get to hear many people tell me "kind of" what they would like- but, they are unable to articulate exactly what they want.
Think about it.
We say what we want, kind of, but are we super clear on it?
But what stops many from getting into the state of true clarity?
Well, some folks are not willing to walk away.
Sometimes what you want and desire may just be too much for the other party you have to engage to get what you want.
That is ok.
Sometimes you have to walk away.
The other reason many lack clarity is because they are constantly talking themselves out of what they want, or, overthinking what the future would be like for them if they actually achieved it.
Let's say you believe you are worth $250k per year but know your boss will never go for a $75k raise.
You slowly begin to talk yourself out of what you are worth, which you are clear on, and instead go and ask for 10-25k in a raise.
This ultimately leaves you weaker, frustrated, and even having regret.
Or, let's say you know what you want, but are unwilling to give up some of the comfort you have right now and freedom you have right now to go after what you want.
That is like driving a Ferrari with the e-brake on.
That is what many of us do.
We are charged, filled with energy, filled with passion but we do not let that passion go and live fully because we are thinking about the cost to us....
But, with every cost there is a cost.
The cost of living in hopes of something that will never happen because you are not willing to release yourself and just free yourself from what you think you want vs. what your gut is telling you.
So, today, I want you to get clear on what you want, be unashamed of it no matter how wild it may be, and then take a step.
Just one step.
Even if you are nervous- that is OK.
Take an action on something.
I had to do it myself yesterday.
I received a contract for an event and was not sure if the terms were right and I had to take action on it.
It was more work for me- but I did it anyway.
That is what I want for you.
Go get it.
Attack the day.
Accept nothing but your best.
Go after what you want and worry about the emotions of it all later.
COACH DANA CAVALEA