Yesterday, I posted something on LinkedInthat got some good run and I wanted to share it with you!
The post was about those who post pictures of themselves on Private Planes, yet, you know they can not afford them.
Now, this is not for every body- because, for some, they are excited about their first private flight...
Rather, this post was about those who are doing things for the applause and reactions of others....
Those who buy certain clothes, do certain things, act a certain way just to fit in or to be validated by the external world....
For years, when working with high performing athletes, this is the one thing we Coach them away from: NOT BEING THEMSELVES...
When a high performance player forgets who they are, they are dead.
It takes a tremendous amount of confidence to play sports (and business) at a high level. If your mind knows that you are faking it, you become weaker.
There is actually a test, in the field of Applied Kinesiology that proves this point through muscle testing.
It goes like this:
1. Hold out your arm.... then state a truthful statement with force.
2. The AK Practitioner will then push down on your arm and it will remain firm..
3. Next, Hold out your arm.. then state a lie with force.
4. The AK Practitioner will then push down on your arm and it will almost always break and be 25%-50% weaker than when pushing the arm during/ after a truthful statement...
The same is happening in each moment you lie to yourself and do things for the applause.
Now, there are times when we have to self-coach ourselves to get through a situation- that is different because you are empowering yourself to take action- not lying to yourself.
Think about your own inner circle...
How many are driving cars they can't afford, traveling to places they should not be, dining at restaurants they should not be at, or, are wearing heels with red bottoms that they should not be wearing for the validation of somebody else?
Well- this team stops that today.
We do things with intention, with focus, with a vision in mind.....
We own our truth, knowing we are working for a better tomorrow.
That is what winners do.
They sacrifice now, so they can win today and win tomorrow.
No false hustle, no lies... just truth and diligent, focused work.
For today's exercise, take an inventory on your own life and where you may be potentially faking it....and immediately knock it off!
COACH DANA CAVALEA