Today, before I head out to the gym I wanted to give you some insights on something I have been thinking deeply about....
That something is the ways of the extremist.....
You know, many of those that have done something outside of the norms have done so being somewhat extreme....
Extreme in their thoughts, actions, behaviors, attitudes, and ways of being...
The thing is, many of of them do not have to force the above, it is simply who they are...
Their natural tendency is to be a bit extreme...
It is their superpower- and, it is also the same thing that can hurt them...
For my entire career I have worked with these extreme, alpha, high talent, big vision, big talent people- they are amazing to work with and are truly special.....
But as I said, they can get themselves in trouble because of their extreme-ness.
In a time where most a preaching "balance"- I have realized that this group simply can not get their...
It is not who they are- and it never will be.
So, Coach, how do you coach people like this to not train-wreck themselves?
I play the extremes with them.
We make the focus on their fitness, their schedule management, their stress management as extreme as their pursuit of success.
It is the only way.
You manage extremes with extremes and you end up somewhere in the middle.
Most of these individuals have done the conservative thing- they have seen the shrink- but they want answers and they want them now...
They want to feel understood- given a plan- and then want to go out and conquer- coming back to show you what they have done.
This works for the extremist.
My learning has showed me when it comes to coaching individuals- coach them to be their best self, not somebody else.
Too often, as the self-help, professional development space grows in popularity, they message to many is to "change yourself"- and that simply does not work.
My message is: BETTER YOURSELF.
Find the areas, the specific areas that you want to be better at and go get the specific answers and help you need to be better at those specific things.
For instance, let's say from a recreational standpoint you have been playing tennis for years and want to get better.
Well, chances are you do not suck at tennis in it's entirety after playing for years- but there are specific parts of your game that need work.
Get specific on where you need improvement and then go find somebody that specializes at that to help you get better with that exact thing.
There is oftentimes too much "general" practice and development" that we seek, but the reality is, most of us need help on something specific.
One of my coaching sessions yesterday talked about taking yourself from general to specific in terms of enhancing yourself.
And, if you are one of the extremist I mentioned above, you should be salivating at this approach to performance enhancement...
The World is filled with generaliststhat have not asked the deeper questions of:
Where exactly do I need to be better?
Then, find your team to get you better, develop your plan, and stick to it.
For the extremists out there- embrace that quality- never change it!
There is nothing wrong with being an extremist- there is a problem when you do not have a specific plan of things to work on and apply that extremist energy towards.
Go out and win today.
Speaking of winning- winning the 4th quarter starts now.
Listen to my message on how you can win the 4th quarter.
COACH DANA CAVALEA