by Dana Cavalea July 02, 2017


Have you ever met somebody that is just filled with the
"I CAN'T's?"
I can't because.... I would love to but, I can't.....

Can't is a word that is almost always followed by a negative and an excuse..

It is just a bad word. Let me show you how suffering from the "I CAN'T's can kill your self esteem and wreck your health.
Nothing gets me more sick than individuals that have selective energy to do the things they want and not for the things they should. Dinner/ drinks with friends till midnight, "no problem." Forty-five minutes on a cross training machine at the gym: " I am to tired and don't have the time."
What I have learned over the past 15 years working with clients is that "improving your health" is one of the worst motivators to get somebody healthy.
Can you believe it? Well it's true.
You would think, in an era where ego and narcissism work in tandem on active social media handles, that people would be intrinsically motivated to achieve optimal health and body to showcase their best self every day. This is just not the case.
The reality is this, health is only an issue when it is an issue. Blood pressure is not really an issue. We have pills for that. Cholesterol is not really an issue. We have pills for that too. Diabetes? Not a problem. I will take the shots.
You see, for somebody to actually make a change because of their "health" needing improvement, they actually have to believe their health needs improvement!
I know people that associate with folks fatter than they are so they can look better. I know people that will keep their family members fat so they don't feel as bad about their own weight.
One of the worst cases is the aging adult. Their self talk and dialogue looks something like this:
"I am healthy for my age, but there are some things I can't do because I am getting older. I try to walk, but can't because of my knee pain from an old high school football injury. So that limits me. I can't even walk a mile without pain and feeling winded.
I watch what I eat, but we go out on the weekends so it is hard. I have high cholesterol but the pills I take help me so I can still enjoy myself and eat red meat 2-3x per week. I would do more if I didn't get lower back pain when I do more active things. Getting old is tough. "
Getting old is a tough process, but for the most part, people like the "individual" above have accepted the path of aging and feel they can live reckless, unaccountable, dense calorie indulging lives with minimal exercise, because, "they earned it."
They worked hard their whole life and now they can enjoy it!- By not doing S%$T to make themselves better. They can now enjoy themselves decaying at a rapid rate because of their choices to sit around, "relaxing" and no longer engaging in any level of stress outside of the decision, "Where are we going to eat tonight? or Would you like scotch or bourbon?"
This is a note to those who are in their 50s,60s,70s,80s that have given in to the aging cycle/ excuse:
I have met 90 year olds with more fight and spunk than some 40 year olds. Ditch the age excuse. Ditch it fast.
Or, here is one for you, BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF.
Tell your real story instead of the "I CAN'T BECAUSE" Story..
The real story is: "I am not motivated. My self esteem is in the toilet because I look and feel terrible. I am walking around without any goals or purpose since I retired. I never really lived and now I have nothing really driving me- and nothing to really live for and go after. So, I settled into this day to day life of waking up late, going for a short stroll, smoking a cigar, going out to eat and laying back down. That is what my life has become."
NEWS FLASH: To all of those who live the above scenario; WE ALL SEE IT TOO. We can see that you have Quit on yourself and life in exchange for more "relaxation".
My question is, "What are you relaxing from? Spending the day at the pool? Reading the paper?"
You see, although this is harsh, it is reality for many. Living lives of quiet desperation. This happens when you have no goals and purpose.
So if you want to turn your life around, start thinking like a winner. Set a goal. Set a deadline. Hold yourself accountable and never, ever, ever make excuses and become a victim of your own mind and self-pity. Nobody feels bad for you.
Let's go.
Dana Cavalea
Dana Cavalea

Dana Cavalea is the former Director of Strength and Conditioning & Performance of the New York Yankees. Currently, he is a High Performance Speaker & Consultant to Pro Athletes, Entrepreneurs, Business Executives, and Workforces on lifestyle strategies to reduce stress, improve work/life integration, and most importantly improve daily performance /outcomes. Book Dana to Speak at your Company Event or Conference Today!

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