As I wrote today's headline, I could not help but think of my early 20s...
A time filled with excitement, passion, joy, and lots of questions.....
I always seemed to have some sort of conflict brewing in my head. Always created by your truly...
This series of questions was almost always followed by the What If's.
I call this the mental plague.
Constantly "wondering" what will happen next.
The part of this plague that is the worst is that you do not get to ever be in the moment- and feel victory because each moment is passing at such a high rate of speed.
Maybe this is conditioning from sports- where if you have a bad at-bat, or game, you immediately focus on the next one.
I remember being in the dugout at Yankee Stadium, standing with Andy Pettitte as we needed one-more out to win the World Series.
Once again, I was thinking about the following season already... and what we would have to do in order to win again!
Well, maybe... maybe not.
I have found this is actually very classic of the high performers I coach....
They are alway moving forward, sometimes through the present moment...
The only way this becomes dangerous is if you miss what the current moment is trying to give you, tell you, teach you.
This translates to this: If you are running from the present moment out of fear of having to face it, then trouble begins.
Hear me out.
Remember the "what-if's"?
Well, if I were to actually double down and face them (what ifs) head on, by taking action on each one.. challenging each of them through action (knowing that a negative outcome could and will present itself)- then I would have been able to stay in the moment longer and a strength/ calm would have come out of it....
How many situations do you accelerate through?
You face them half way or not at all?
Well, if you want to get what you want, you must have the courage to step into the situations you face.
Thinking back, I didn't deal with mind-chatter (immediately) at that point in my life because I thought things would just go-away.
And, some did, but I always had regret that I did not address that "something" in the moment.
If I did, it would have passed immediately, or, it would present another action item.
Waiting has its place- but it is often a waste of time, energy, and leaves you with a case of the "what-ifs"...
The "what-ifs" are exhausting...
Instead, muster up the courage to address the lion... you may realize the lion is a sheep.. you just made that person, conversation, or ask to appear as a lion because of the power you gave it in your mind!
So, if you want to win, address things in real-time!
Attack the day.
COACH DANA CAVALEA