We are back at it with another fresh week as we head to the finish line of 2022.
Crazy how FAST things go.
As we head into the end of the year, I want to share something with you that I posted on LinkedIn this AM that talks about something very important.
My dad would talk about this over and over again when I was a kid...
At the time, I wanted things NOW.
I still at times want things now, but always need to remind myself of the words of my dad, "there is no such thing as instant gratification."
I was doing some research on this topic and came across this experiment that I wanted to talk about today..
It is called: The Marshmallow Test.
𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁?
Let's take a deeper dive...
"𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘴𝘩𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘦𝘴𝘵, 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘱𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘞𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘔𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘭, 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘱𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥.
𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘯 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥, 𝘰𝘳, 𝘪𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘺 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘢 𝘭𝘢𝘳𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥. 𝘚𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘣𝘺 𝘔𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘨𝘶𝘦𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘯’𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘺 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘴." - Cynthia Vinney
What they found was that children who were able to hold off 15+minutes from eating the marshmallow that was right in front of them went on the achieve far more than those who felt the immediate desire. and need to eat the marshmallow...
Today, this has large application...
How many of you feel the need to eat the marshmallow right away?..
Today's marshmallow is something shiny, or, something new..
Taking you away from that thing you know you should be doing and moving you towards what is easy and what feels good?
Well, if you continue to avoid delayed gratification in favor of a quick fix, a quick hit, or whatever is easy, ultimately that has a cost...
To do something great one must sit in and lean-into what must get done in order to achieve the greatest possible outcome....
That something is not always easy and it often does not feel good until the result is produced down the line...
Embrace the discomfort.
Embrace that sitting in the suck.
Embrace that emotions that come with having to slow down, figure something out, and having to apply continuous thought, power, and force to drive something forward.
The real results are down the line.
Just look at the founders of the big brands, the great companies that we know and love today.
They took time to build.
Day in and day out repetitive efforts to move something forward.
The only time brands, as well as people, often stall or do not move forward is when they get off track and chase the marshmallow instead of working patiently, or, in the dark till the reward comes.
Today, remember, focus on the outcome you desire and take the sequential steps to get there.
You will be glad you did.
That is "acting like you have been there before" and "business as usual" as they say :)
-COACH DANA CAVALEA