Controlling Your Emotional Response...

Hi Team...

Happy Monday!

I am back in Florida this AM and we have a lovely 39 degrees..

It is fun to watch everyone walking around in their full winter gear hoping for the next 75 degree day... 

As I sit here at Starbucks writing to you, I wanted to talk to you about something important today...

Your emotional response.

What is your emotional response?

Your emotional response is how you respond to things emotionally...

Or, how we feel inside about our response to things.

For example, say you are in a meeting and you are "biting your tongue"- not saying what you really want to say...

The emotional response is you being calm on the outside but burning up on the inside...

For many, they find themselves in this situation a lot...

There is a discrepancy between what they are saying and how they are showing up externally and how they are truly feeling internally...

This gap has a cost.

It is one of the greatest energy burning gaps around...

When you are out of alignment emotionally, it is exhausting.

And, in today's society there are a lot of actors.

Saying the right thing, looking good, but emotionally out of alignment.

If you find yourself in this place- it is time to get real with yourself.

Start asking this question: WHY AM I RESPONDING LIKE THIS?

What you will find is oftentimes it is not the other person- it is you.

You are the reason behind like of alignment emotionally. 

Some of the most common causes of poor emotional alignment are:

• Low self-esteem
• Basing how you feel on your results (oftentimes material and title related)
• Comparing yourself to others ( sparking feelings like I am smarter, better than that person OR "I should be at that level by now")
• Worrying what others think of you (how you look, how you speak, how you think)
• Fatigue and not truly believing in what you are doing

You see- this is why I speak so much about confidence.

When you believe in yourself, you are less likely to fall into some of these traps.

A poor emotional response often is a sing.

It is telling you something.

Often it is telling you to look inward....

What you will find is that you need to chill-out, be more relaxed, and be open to ideas outside of your own and just more open in general.

A rule I put in place is take a deep breath before any kind of response...

That deep breath is a "perspective breath"- and with it comes understanding.

Practice this today.

Give it a try.

Get yourself aligned.

When you do- a whole new world of possibilities and internal peace will present itself to you.

Let's go!

Your Coach,

COACH DANA CAVALEA