by Dana Cavalea May 30, 2018

Hey Team...

Yesterday, I was coaching one of my baseball players who has had a hard time hitting as of late...

And I realized something devastating had happened to him...

He lost his mojo...

During our conversation, he kept mentioning all of his success in batting practice... the foul balls he "crushed".. and the great moments he "used to have"...

Basically, sharing his highlight reel and celebrating his glory days... at the ripe old age of 21...

I asked him how he felt during those great moments... BOOM.. his face lit up with a smile...

Then I asked him how he felt now?

I was greeted with a total opposite reaction... dropped shoulders.. frustrated grin.. and a total lack of confidence...

Same person. Same game. Totally different personas...

You see, when you lose your mojo... it happens because the "weight" you place on each at-bat, each meeting, each "deal" becomes greater...

It is not just about that at-bat, meeting, or deal... you are putting the weight of the world on top of it (and you)..

You are giving this "thing" so much attention that it starts to become something so much more than it really is...

And because of that.. you starting pressing, pushing, contemplating... and start doing everything but playing offense and demonstrating confidence...

Fear dominates you.

And the reality of circumstance is... 

THE HARDER YOU PUSH, THE HARDER YOUR TRY, THE FURTHER AWAY SUCCESS BECOMES...

You are totally out of rhythm..

Out of flow..

Your body is tense...

Your respiratory rate is increased...

Stress and tension are taking over your body and causing a heavy stress response..

Your self talk becomes negative...

Until....

You have a mini-victory..

One hit. One big meeting you win. One "DEAL" you close....

That one moment of "greatness" can get you right back on track...

You didn't need to acquire more skill.. or more talent.. you just needed a mini victory so you can start "believing" again in YOU.

Belief is confidence. Confidence is the catalyst of success.

Those mini-victories can lead you to that "taste of success"... which you can begin to roll into your next victory...

Then the momentum begins... with each victory, you feel more confident... and that is how you "rebuild" yourself from the inside out over time...

In the process, make sure you realize that failure is just something that is "happening"... it is not happening to you.... failure is an acute event... you decide whether you let it dominate you...

So, if you are somebody that is dealing with "failure" to perform...

Hit the brakes on your thought process... hold up on the negative self talk.. the excuses of not being good enough, lacking the skills, and needing more "work"...

Exchange this for positive visuals of you succeeding... calming yourself by breathing and slowing yourself down... and realize that no performance is the end of the world...

Only you can solve your stinkin thinkin.

If you are not meeting your expectation of "your self"... stop taking yourself so seriously.. loosen up.. smile.. laugh.. and realize your "pushing" is not the answer... the answer is on the opposite side of that state... 

#trainlikeapro

COACH DANA CAVALEA

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Dana Cavalea
Dana Cavalea

Dana Cavalea is the former Director of Strength and Conditioning & Performance of the New York Yankees. Currently, he is a High Performance Speaker & Consultant to Pro Athletes, Entrepreneurs, Business Executives, and Workforces on lifestyle strategies to reduce stress, improve work/life integration, and most importantly improve daily performance /outcomes. Book Dana to Speak at your Company Event or Conference Today!


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