We made it!
I am sure this was a busy week for you as it was me.
This was a great week of coaching for me... it was as if people needed the coaching this week more than others.....
From corporate coaching to individual, I noticed a trend: IN-SECURITY.
Coach, you have said in the past that we are all in-secure.
In many ways we are... but there is a difference between general insecurity vs. situational insecurity...
With general insecurity, you are insecure about who you are, most of the time.
With situational insecurity, you are insecure about who you are in certain moments, mostly during acute situations (ex. public speaking)....
What causes this Coach?
Well, the #1 thing that I have discovered is that many are ashamed ofwhat they really believe.
Because, what they really believe may get shamed or is not in line with public opinion, or, the masses.
Example: We saw it this week with one of America's great quarterbacks, Drew Brees. He is a true patriot and said he does not agree with ever kneeling during the anthem and as a result, he got crushed by teammates. Meanwhile, jus a few short weeks ago, he donated millions of his own money to fight COVID in Louisiana.
We also saw a long time staple in the Philadelphia community, Di Bruno Bros. fold their cards on offering free meals to cops as they keep the streets safe for residents. They revoked their offer when the pressure got too high. They could not take it, so, to save face, they pulled their offer and decided to not support their local men and women in blue.
This is an example of situational insecurity. The pressure got so great on the outside, that he caved and apologized for their beliefs.
Again, this is just an example.
But, how often does it happen to you?
Maybe a boss or co-worker or board member puts pressure on you and you change what you believe for the applause and approval of an outsider....
Well, News Flash...
If you do that enough, over time, you will have general insecurity...
Unable to make a decision because you no longer know what you believe in.
You actually believe in nothing, or, you believe what everyone else believes.
That my friends would be a damn shame.
When you give into the temptation and opinions of the outside world you are done.
When you give up on who you are and what you believe is the right thing because it is not favorable to others- you have lost.
Champions know who they are, what they believe, and do not waiver on those pillars that make them who they are.
Now, does that mean not understand others? Nope.
Does that mean your beliefs are concrete and set in stone? Nope.
But, there are fundamental character traits that make you who you are... and those traits make up your essence and your soul. BE YOU.
When you can do that, you will learn a few things:
1. Who you really are....
2. Who your friends really are...
3. That you have amazing guts to dominate whatever it is that you put your heart into...
Don't worry what others think...
It will rob you of your greatness.
COACH DANA CAVALEA