There is something I wanted to address today: Personal Development...
After 1893, the Progressive Era began in America- and it was marked by the belief that man had the ability to improve the conditions of his life.
*An orphan by the name of Orison Swett Marden had toiled under abusive employers for a decade, resigned to his fate in the farmlands of New England.
His serendipitous discovery of Self-Help by the Scottish reformer Samuel Smiles awakened the ambition to change his life and led to a new career devoted to inspiring and encouraging others to reach their potential. (*credit =success magazine).
The advancement of self-help came from names like psychologist Alfred Adler and Carl Jung, as well as the man who was commissioned by Andrew Carnegie to study the wealthiest men in World, Napoleon Hill.
From there, you had names like Jim Rohn and Tony Robbins pick up the personal development torch- teaching their philosophies on life and living and how you can do it better...
This is all great.
But, what I have found to be the greatest inhibitor to the advancement of man-kind is the inability to think for ones-self.
The inability to own what you think, how you think, and live in a way that is reflective of that way of thinking and being.
Today, there is constant self-judgement and questioning around "is what I am doing right?" followed by "am I doing this the right way?"...
And it is from this position that one can become so curious that they find themselves in a personal development vortex and funnel cloud that keeps sucking them in to the opinions, ideas, and ideals of another person- in which they soon adopt as their own.
The issue is this: They have gone away from who they are to adopt the ways of another fellow man. (or woman)...
And every time one goes against themselves, they become weaker.
They become less powerful.
They feel more lost with less clarity.
OWN WHO YOU ARE- AND DO NOT LET THE INFLUENCE OF OTHERS BECOME SOME GREAT OVER YOU THAT YOU LOSE YOURSELF.
Now, this does not mean to do not learn from others or be open to others- but you must come from a starting position of trusting yourself, believing in yourself, being confident in yourself.
When you come from that position, you can very easily say: What this person is saying aligns with my values, or, this is not for me.
I opened up today by talking about the origins of personal development because it has been around for a very long time.
It is a dissection of human psychology crossed with the opinions and thoughts of another person- not that much different than you.
What I caution you against is getting so deep in it, becoming so obsessed with the study of this subject that you forget who you are, why you do what you do, and the ways that are best for you.
Own who you are.
The confidence, calm, and self-belief that arrives can be truly staggering.
That is the greatest self-help, personal development less of all.
Own who you are. (always.)
You will not please everyone- but that is how you know you are trending accordingly.
Win the day.
COACH DANA CAVALEA